You have spent, or are still spending way too much time making your church district and it's social circles into something way more important than you should have. You can do better.... God actually hates popularity. I mean, you really just have to read the Bible to get that picture. But it's pretty obvious. Moses, Paul, , David, etc.... God liked people who were not cool in any way whatsoever. Moses was that dude at your church who stuttered a lot. The guy who you felt obligated to invite out to eat after church, even though you didn't want him there and he knew you didn't want him there. Real sad guy, that Moses. Paul was that guy who was absolutely convinced that he was right but yet was hated by almost everyone else because of how right he thought he was. Paul was your classic insecure, ego-maniacal mama's boy. Acted entitled. Like killing Christians at one moment because he was "correct" and then like totally apologizing to all Christian...
"All jesting is in its nature profane, in the sense that it must be the sudden realization that something which thinks itself solemn is not so very solemn after all." -G.K. Chesterton.